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A Hair Journey

Hair…is an interesting thing. For so many years, I feel like my hair was just…a thing in the background. You know, like, aside from maintaining it, I never put too much thought into it. It just…was. Like many black women, I grew up with hot combs and a Just for Me perm by the time I was out of elementary school. The type of “hair maintenance” that I was taught, was to get my kinks as straight and slick as possible. The hotter the flat iron, the stronger the relaxer, the better. And through childhood, adolescence, and young adulthood, I never even questioned this.

I got introduced to my first real weave in college (can we not talk about the infamous fake ponytail? Thanks). You mean, I could braid up these naps and wear this {insert euro-ethnic hair type} that was straighter and sleeker than I could ever make my own? Yes, please! I spent my early 20’s full of sew-in’s and thousands of dollars spent on covering my own hair…so that I could rock this other hair that didn’t belong to me. And I mean that, now, in the deepest sense you can take it sis.

But back then, I didn’t think any of it. It just…was.

I wonder though, what would I have thought, if I had the mindset then, that I have now. Would I have been super woke? Would I have been the sister with the bullhorn at the very beginnings of the natural hair movement talking about self hate and eurocentric beauty standards? Or would I have had the same lax, but solid, opinion that I have now? Would I have cared? Would I have had the confidence to change? Would I have even wanted to?

I can’t pinpoint when things changed. I can tell you though, that it was no dramatic moment where I discovered I had this deep rooted self hatred thing going on. I assure you, it was wayyy less woke than that. It had more to do with the fact that I was losing my hair due to postpartum hair loss and I was ready and willing to try anything to get my edges back. That search for “anything” led to me to the natural hair community. This was around the time where it was really starting to get popping and the 3c curly girls were all over youtube. I figured, why not? And so, my transition to natural hair began.


A Hair Journey

I spent the next four years desperately twisting my hair into submission (see photo above). The first three, I dove deep into the natural hair community. I began blogging about it, contributing to magazines about it (which I still do), I even spoke on a panel about it in 2015. I appreciate that time I had to learn more about my hair, how to take care of it, and slowly started to reflect back on the years of relaxing, straightening, and spending the equivalent of car notes on weaves.

After the novelty wore off and the realization that my hair would never look like {insert popular 3c youtuber}, I began to feel indifferent about it. The next year or so was interesting. I wasn’t taking care of my hair, rarely wore it out, and had begun to protective style constantly…not out of a need for protection but out of disdain for not knowing how to get my natural hair to look how I wanted without spending a million and one hours I didn’t have. I was in a cycle that was familiar; attempting to suppress my hair and hiding it whenever I could. But, unlike those earlier years…I had thoughts about this. It wasn’t…just hair anymore to me.


A Hair Journey

I just finished washing and deep conditioning my hair. My energy was gone as I had given pretty much all I had to chasing children, tackling laundry, and cooking for my family–who eats more like a small sports team to be honest. Nothing in me felt like detangling, moisturizing, oiling and retwisting my hair just to be irritated that my fro didn’t come out the way I’d hoped or had shrunken from resting on my shoulders to barely grazing my ear lobes. I was exhausted, tired, frustrated…I was over it.

What was this all even for?

I don’t even want to think about the time I spent on my hair in the four years that I was a loose natural. It’s scary. Wash day was a legit day long experience for me. And maintaining some semblance of a curl pattern meant I was taking hours each week to retwist, untwist, pick and repeat. At this point, I had decided, maybe it really was just hair and if so? Taking all this time out my life to make it look, once again, like something that didn’t belong to me? Pointless. I was done.

I twisted my hair and decided, that was that. I’d let it do it’s own thing.

Five months in and I finally feel like, I’m truly embracing my natural hair. And let me real, it’s a struggle every day. My hair is my alter ego. She’s wild, I’m chill. She’s bold, I’m laid back. I’m quiet observing the scene and she is the scene. She’s grows up and out making herself known. She’s not afraid to be her. And as locs, no matter how I’ve tried to tame her in my moments of exasperation, she’s absolutely determined to be free. She’s helping me to understand and peel back the layers of myself. And doing that, is always tough work.

I have come to learn that…yea, maybe it is just hair. But, I can’t deny that my hair journey has paralleled my life journey so very perfectly. So…I guess I’ll let you be the judge. Just hair or nah?

Every Sunday I share a letter from my journey with those on my email list. WELL SPENT is part things I’ve come across that inspire me and things I think might resonate with you.


Beyond Coconut Oil

Beyond Coconut Oil

Listen, I LOVE coconut oil as much as anybody else on this planet. You know those “pours coconut oil over entire life” memes? I’m here for it. Coconut oil is one of the first oils that I really started using for like, all of life’s problems. But, can I tell y’all that there is a world of oils out there that you might just love if you cheated on coconut real quick?

So like a year ago, my hair went TF off. I’d been natural for a while at that point, but all of sudden my hair was sooo dry, brittle, breaking off, all over a complete mess. I didn’t know what was going on so, I doused it with more coconut oil. Makes sense right? Except, it was getting worse. I was at the end of my rope when I stumbled across this video of Naptural85 where she talked about being allergic to coconut oil. Mind. Blown.

I hit the googles immediately after watching that video and while I wouldn’t go as far to make the conclusion that I’m allergic to coconut oil, my hair was definitely having some kind of reaction and wasn’t here for it. I don’t use coconut oil on my hair anymore and it’s been slowly improving. I still use it on my son’s hair because it seems to work well for him for now, but as for me? Coconut oil and my hair have broken up for good.

But fear not, there are a ton of other great oils that you can use for you hair and skin that work very nicely. I’m gonna tell you about THREE that I’ve incorporated into my hair and skin routines and why they are the Ready? Continue Reading


Giovanni Tea Tree Triple Threat Invigorating Conditioner

Giovanni Tea Tree Triple Threat Invigorating ConditionerMy natural hair is picky…matter of fact she’s a lot like me. When we like something we really like it and when we don’t, we REALLY don’t. The only difference is she tends to not like a whole lot more things than she does like {side eye}. I think that’s why I could never be a proper natural hair blogger. She’s just not having it. And I’m cool with that. That doesn’t stop me from trying though. Especially when it comes to finding a product that solves a natural hair problem I’m dealing with. In this case, I was on a search to find a detangling conditioner that was more affordable than my normal cleansing and deep conditioners, that the crown actually liked, and that really detangled because listen…I don’t care how simple my natural hair routine is…detangling will always be in the way. After much trial and error, I tried the Giovanni Tea Tree Triple Threat Invigorating Conditioner and I think I’ve found the one.

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My Simple Winter Natural Hair Routine

My Simple Natural Hair Routine

Can I be real with y’all? There have been times when I was reeaaallyy about to give this natural hair thing up. Like throw in the towel, grab me a flat iron, and be done with the whole thing. And it’s always at that point, right when I’m all the way through, someone will say “I love your hair!” or “I wish I could wear my hair like yours.” or the thing that really changes my mind “You make me want to go natural too. How did you get your hair like that?” Something about the fact that my hair–no matter how much drama she tries to put me through–inspires other women to return to natural, means I have to keep going. And growing. And sharing.

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2016 Beauty Resolutions

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Every year that I get closer to…you know…not being in my 20’s anymore, the more serious I get about my skin and beauty routines. I care more about what I’m putting on, how my skin is reacting to products, and pickier about how often I switch things up. With 2016 being my last year in my 20’s–omg cue anxiety–I am not playing any games. So just like I came up with a bunch of life and business goals, you better believe I came up with some with beauty resolutions too. 2016 will be the year of the glo’ up.

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Fro Love: As I Am Cleansing Pudding Review

As I Am Cleansing Pudding

I feel like this review biased and here’s why: My hair just likes As I Am products. There. We can really just end this here but because I’m trying to do better and actually share meaningful content that you guys can use, we’re going to do this proper. The full official review of the cleansing product, that replaced my other staple cleansing product (hey Coconut Cleansing Conditioner), that’s from the same brand, becausssseee….My hair just likes As I Am products.

You might remember a few months back I had a natural hair crisis of sorts, when I went to numerous beauty supply stores on wash day only to find my all time favorite cleansing conditioner wasn’t trying to be found that day. I wound up picking up the As I Am Cleansing Pudding and have been testing it ever since.

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Current Obsession: Creme Brulee Curling Delight x Alikay Naturals

Creme Brulee Curling Delight

The fro is backkk! And I’ve missed her for real. I know me and the crown have our moments but when she’s acting right, it’s all love! I’ve been wearing protective styles for monthsss simply due to time. I’ve learned over my natural hair journey that I should only do my hair when I have two things: Time and Patience. I’ve been a little short on a little of both but we’ll save that for a different day. So to save the crown some unnecessary damage, I’ve been keeping her tucked away. Moisturized, oiled, and out of sight ;-).

This past weekend I had to take Friday and Monday off–trust me I ain’t complaining, it was much needed but the way my bank account set up…..well YOU know–so I had some extra time to take care of the fro. I have a few new products to talk about but I’ll save those for another post. Today I’m talking about how I finally broke out my old curlBOX Natural and decided to try out the Creme Brulee Curling Delight by Alikay Naturals. Took down those twists and was like OOP! You can’t tell me nothing.

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My Favorite Shampoo & Conditioner for Natural Hair

So, I’m a product junkie I am. Seriously. But it’s okay because I’m a beauty blogger and that’s part of my job. See what I did there? But in all seriousness my natural hair product shelf is growing larger everyday. If it ain’t a masque, it’s a curling cream. Same thing, different day. But, in the midst of the piles of natural hair products that surround my closet, vanity, and bathroom cabinet, sometimes a girl’s just gotta get back to basics.

ORS Shampoo and Conditioner

After taking out my crochet braids, the crown needed a wash and deep condition like you wouldn’t believe. Whatever I used, I knew it had to do the job right so I broke out my staple Creamy Aloe Shampoo and Replenishing Conditioner by ORS and was reminded AGAIN how much I LOVE these two products together. For real, I can’t even tell you how straight up amazing my hair is. Ever single time I use them.

If you’re not familiar with my natural hair journey, I have very fine kinky 4b/c hair. Yup the good stuff. I’m not even kidding. Most times the crown and I are friends, other times she needs to go figure out what she wants in life. That’s when I install a protective style like my crochet braids. I don’t really use shampoo all like that but after I take out a protective style I absolutely take the time to a shampoo cleanse and deep condition. Literally the only shampoo I use period is the ORS Creamy Aloe Shampoo.

I know people can use a whole bunch of different brand products in one wash session but I find my hair likes when I use products within the same line. I always follow up an ORS shampoo session with the ORS Replenishing Conditioner. Can I just tell you that I really don’t think there is a better conditioner than this? I mean, I like other conditioners. A lot. But something about this stuff man…natural hair be flourishing.

I’ve been using ORS products for like my whole life…or since I discovered the brand “a few years ago” in college and I’ve been a fan ever since. My friends used to joke way back then that I should be a brand ambassador for them the way I used to promote their products on campus (PS ORS if you’re reading this, ya girl is available). Ahhh the good old days. So in true Tyshia fashion, if you haven’t tried this shampoo and conditioner yet…what are you waiting on!?

Even though I’m biased, tell me, what’s your favorite shampoo and conditioner? Let’s talk hair products!

Stay blessed beautiful!


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On My Radar: As I Am Cleansing Pudding + Hydration Elation

On My Radar_As I Am Cleansing Pudding & Hydration Elation

If you know anything about my natural hair, you know that some of my favorite products are by As I Am. I randomly discovered this brand back in when I was transitioning and looking for a cleansing conditioner and since then I’ve mentioned my beloved Coconut Co-Wash more than a few times but long story short: It’s bomb. Period. So when I ran out this past wash day and went to my local beauty supply to find they were smooth out, I was UPSET.

I don’t really do shampoo unless I need to and it took me foreverrr to find a conditioner that left my hair feeling clean. What was a girl to do?? I spent a good 15 minutes trying to figure out my life…or at the very least if there was another store close by that had the cleansing conditioner. After serious debate, I decided to just try a few new As I Am products because I mean, if the cowash (and leave in because you already know how I feel about their leave in hunny) worked well, maybe I’d have similar success with some of their other products.

First thing I grabbed was the Cleansing Pudding+ Sulfate-Free Moisturizing Cleanser. It had me at sulfate-free so even it it isn’t as magical as my cowash, at least I know it’s gentle.

As I am Cleansing Pudding

CLEANSING PUDDING+ Sulfate-Free Moisturizing Cleanser

  • Cleanses hair of residue and product build-up
  • Moisturizes as it cleanses
  • Rids scalp of excess sebum, environmental impurities and shedding scalp debris
  • Provides a soothing scalp treatment
  • Helps promote a healthy environment for hair growth.

Key Ingredients: Tangerine, Aloe Vera, Castor Oil, Vegetable Glycerin, Saw Palmetto and Phytosterols   – As I Am

I still needed a conditioner so I grabbed the Hydration Elation Intensive Conditioner. My hair is chronically dry so anything with hydration in the name is good in my book.

As I Am Hydration Elation

HYDRATION ELATION Intensive Conditioner

  • Moisturizes deep within the hair shaft
  • Smooths and aligns cuticle layer
  • Strengthens weak areas and repairs split ends
  • Promotes shine
  • Infused with pure herbal ingredients that stimulate the scalp and hair roots
  • Helps promote healthy hair growth from the follicular level
  • Enhances manageability and overall hair health

Treat your hair every 2 to 3 weeks (or even more frequently, depending upon the condition of your hair and what you do to it).

Key Ingredients: Coconut, Sugar Cane, Green Tea, Apple, Lemon, Vegetable Glycerin, Shea Butter and Vitamin E  – As I Am

I’m excited to try these out and let y’all know how the crown is feeling it. I’ve tried both once and so far: YASSS. But I’ll leave it at that and look out for my full review.

Does anyone else have that one brand of products that your hair just seems to vibe with?

Stay Blessed Beautiful!



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On My Radar: Dark and Lovely Au Naturale

Dark and Lovely Au Naturale Cover

Happy Monday beauties! How gorgeous was this weekend though? Spring is here! It’s festival season, conference season, and simply beautiful so I was out, about, and all over the city taking in all the festivities. Sunday morning I was invited to a blogger brunch hosted by Dark and Lovely at the African American Museum in Philadelphia (only my favorite place in the city!). They were in town for the Philadelphia Natural Hair Show and put together an intimate event for us bloggers to get together, eat some food, and talk about blogging, natural hair, and Dark and Lovely’s Au Naturale product line.

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Unboxing! CurlBOX NATURAL

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{Cue dramatics} It brings me great joy and so much pleasure to announce I’ve officially received my first curlBOX. Yes it’s that serious and Yes I’m dramatic, but this has been a long time coming. I, like many of my natural haired Queens, have been eyeing this cult fave subscription box for curly girls for months. Never in time to get on the list. I always see the Instagram post an hour too late. But one unlikely Saturday morning I was up early and scrolling the gram when I saw the post that not only was there going to be a curlBOX available in a few minutes but it also was a curlBOX Natural box which is the initial one that drove me to the curlBOX site in the beginning. I logged onto the site patiently sipping my Chai and when the curlBox Natural March 2015 // Volume VII popped up…well you already know ;).

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8 Black Beauty Brands To Shop

8 Black Beauty Brands To Shop

Black History Month is coming to a close but you guys already know the celebration of brown girls is non stop around here. I did think it would be nice to do something to honor the month here on the blog and since it IS me and y’all already know how I roll, I gathered 8 awesome black beauty brands that you should be shopping now. Some tried and true, some old, some new. All worthy of your coins.

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Natural Hair Diaries: My Current Protective Style

Crochet Braids Protective Style

{Cue 7/11…Fresher than youuuuu.} Hey Queens! If you couldn’t tell from my opening pic (or you don’t follow me on Instagram, Twitter, or Youtube… shameless plugging!) this post is about my newest hair adventure crochet braids! Less on the actual styling, which next time I do these there will be a video tutorial for sure because listen! This was so easy anybody can do it. For real. If I can do it anybody can. But more so what brought me to this point in time where I had to put the crown away and do a protective style. Like immediately.

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Video: Winter 2015 Beauty & Hair Favorites


Winter 2015 Favorites

Hey beauties! I’m back on the YouTube wagon and chatting about my current favorites. I don’t wear or try enough products through the month to do a monthly favorites post but I definitely can do a round up each season. Y’all already know I do my brown girl beauty picks when I come across something you NEED and those will most definitely continue. I already have TWO on my list. Hunnyyyy just wait on it!

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