I’ve decided to dedicate this week to mama’s as we gear up to celebrate Mother’s Day this coming Sunday. To start the week I wanted to share some of my favorite blogs and sites that capture motherhood through beautiful and transparent lenses. I chose a mixture of personal blogs and larger sites because I love following specific blogs for personal tales of motherhood as well as big sites that discuss parenting and motherhood on a larger scale.
What if…having it all figured out is just a temporary moment in time. What if the whole idea of arriving to this point where you’ve “figured it out” is really just a point on a much longer path. A part of a much bigger picture? “I think I’ve figured it out and realize I have no clue what’s happening at least 2 – 3 times a week.” I tweeted this a few days ago after going through the normal roller coaster of life that is intensified by a million when you’re self-employed. But it’s true. I continuously reach these points where I’m like YASSS this is it. I know exactly what I’m going to do! This will be great. I’ve figured it out! Only to wind up a few days later like “so what exactly am I doing out here?” Continue Reading
Do you know it had the nerve to snow in Philly this past weekend? Not here for it. I’m over here looking for Spring like…you’re late. Nevertheless, because I’m practicing intention with my time and life these days (you know that whole “life she loves” thing), and I’m consistently learning that they key to success with anything is planning (major key), while I’m waiting on Spring’s tentative arrival I decided to plan some Spring activities with the family. Sharing my list with you 1) for accountability 😉 and 2) if you’re looking for some ideas hopefully you find some inspo here. I included a template at the end for you to print and write out your own Spring checklist as well. Continue Reading
When I first started this work at home mom journey I was a mess. I don’t know why I had this cotton candy and rainbow sprinkles idea of how easy life would be once I cut out the long commute, stopped rushing to pick ups and drop offs like a crazy person, and had “unlimited amounts” of time to get things done. Dreamland for real. What actually happened is I became busier than I have ever been in my life. If I thought life was hectic before it was NOTHING compared to what it looked like those first couple of weeks. I might have dropped out the race before it even really got started had it not been for the grace of God and the ladies in my mastermind group. Since then, I’ve figured out a system that helps me stay somewhat “balanced”, less anxious, less all over the place, and able to get things done. It’s pretty simple but for a girl with a lot on her plate and a low tolerance for overwhelm, this system has changed the game. I wanted to share the things that have helped so I thought I’d start a series on simply “Getting Things Done”. First up: Themed Days. Continue Reading
It’s wash day for man man and it’s days like this I think back and am like bless my mother’s heart. I’m the oldest of three girls and every time I even think about what wash day must have been like for her…LISTEN…She is a soldier. Most of you know I have three boys, but my youngest is the only one with hair. The older ones have low cuts but my husband and toddler are natural boys :). The hubs started growing his locs last year and the plan is to let man man’s (that’s my toddler) hair grow out. We let it do it’s own thing. He’s a free spirit like his parents so it works for him. But anyway, yes on to wash day.
When man man was younger, wash day was a lot easier but as he got older and hit two years old, it is an event. I was on the lookout for a shampoo that was moisturizing, detangling, conditioning, and gentle. We went through our fair share of testing because clearly, we’re picky. After picking this Taliah Waajid Berry Clean Shampoo a few months back, it has been our staple and we’ve never looked back!
The Taliah Waajid Kinky, Wavy, Natural 3 in 1 Berry Clean Shampoo, Conditioner, and Softener (yes that’s the whole name) is everything I was looking for in one bottle. It has a really nice scent but it still gentle enough for me to wash man man’s hair without him freaking out if water drips on his face. A little goes a long way and I only need to use a small amount to get a good lather. Since this is a 3 in 1 I don’t use any conditioner–don’t come for me natural mamas!–only this and his hair feels so soft and moisturized after we’re done. I follow up with a little moisturizer, usually whatever I have in close reach–and detangle if I have to, although this shampoo does a great job of getting all the tangles out during wash. I’m telling you, it’s everything.
Ever since using this and cutting down the wash day process both man man AND I have been much happier people. I’ll probably just use this shampoo for as long as I’m in charge of washing his fro and I’m sure he’s good with that ;).
What do you use on you natural kids hair? Are their wash days a lot of work or do you keep it lowkey?
Stay blessed beautiful!
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A few weeks backs the hubs and I welcomed our official start to festival season here in Philly. I absolutely love this time of year and Philly has no shortage of street fests, music fests, food fests throughout the Spring and Summer. This year we decided to make a point of getting out and about and enjoying our city more and what perfect time to start than attending the South St. Spring Festival.
Packed is an understatement but it was a nice day. We walked the 8 block strip along South St, grabbed some food, ate lunch on the grass at Front St and watched the kids play to their hearts content.
It’s funny because leading up to the time we finally decided to head out to the festival I was fighting this internal struggle. That very same day, the Philadelphia Natural Hair Show was in town and I felt like I should be there. I’m a beauty blogger with natural hair and one that is trying to make this writing thing–both through my blog and freelance work–my main thing so everything in me felt that I should be there. But between working my day job and spending all of my free time working on my dream job, I felt like on the first really nice weekend full of festivals in my city I should spend the day with my loves. It was a tough decision but I’m happy I did what I did!
At the end of the day I feel like you gotta do what’s important and as a mother, wife, who just so happens to be building this dream on the side, sometimes sacrifices have to made. This particular weekend that was no work and all play and I would have had it no other way.
Stay blessed beautiful!
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If you follow me on Twitter or Instagram you’ll see me talk a lot about my boys. In case you’re new around here, I have three ages 9, 6, & 2. Up until this year when our oldest entered 4th grade, we’ve been pretty much smooth sailing. Our boys are good kids. They do kid things and get good grades. But 4th grade has been like…a whole new world. And that’s not to say things are bad, but more so I’m definitely noticing a change when it comes to parenting our oldest. So when I heard about Oprah’s Lifeclass on OWN with Dr. Shefali Sunday about Conscious Parenting I definitely wanted to tune in and figure out what is going on inside the head of kids…specifically this almost 10 year old fourth grade son of mines.
If you’ve been following the blog for some time you may have come across my Love Yourself Completely post. I’ve posted it twice here and both times I was met with such love and encouragement from Queens (here and on my social media accounts) about the message. In that post I talk about loving yourself completely and embracing everything about you. Total self acceptance. “Flaws” and all. I also talked about the things I experienced in my past that I learned to embrace and accept about myself. That transparency with you all was major for me. I’ve never really spoke out on something so personal. Writing about beauty is easy. It comes naturally to me and it’s something I’m passionate about. But what’s not so easy is being transparent and I was really happy to see such positive feedback.
I’ve always admired those moms. You know the ones who look absolutely fabulous from head to toe, carrying a toddler in one arm, pushing a stroller with the other, and balancing a designer bag on her shoulder. The Queen glam mommy for me has to be Kimora Lee Simmons. She’s always so flawless and with her children in tow. Just slaying all day err day.
I hope all the mommies enjoyed their special day! For me, I really didn’t want for much. Just a relaxed day, some food, and maybe a new bag. Thankfully I got all 3!
Still haven’t gotten Mom a gift yet? Here’s a quick gift guide! Now how to slyly point my husband in the direction of number 1 ;).
And my obsession continues. I really am just totally in love with Shea Moisture. Not just because my hair loves their raw shea butter deep treatment masque, or that my skin thrives off their Coconut & Hibiscus face and body bar, even though these are MAJOR…but I’m a sucker for branding and Shea Moisture has really done an amazing job hands down. So when they started releasing products that I could buy for the whole family, well you KNOW I was all for it!
*VINTAGE NATURAL post from This Brown Queen originally posted in June 2013*
As most of you know, I’m about 2 months into my journey of transitioning to natural hair and I have my good days and bad. I think it’s safe to assume that, anyone who has been on this journey experiences moments in the beginning where you’re just not sure. Not sure about a lot things. If you’re me, your unsureness would go something like: Am I using the right products? Will this leave in work? Did I do those twists right? Does this bantu knot look nice? Do I look crazy? Why am I doing this? Whatever the case may be, you go through it. This past weekend, I was having a particularly rough time with my twist out. I’m somewhere between the point where, I “like” my natural texture, but I still don’t really know how to handle it. I’m wishing that I could just NOT have the relaxed ends anymore because they make me frustrated. I find myself trying out styles and loving the natural curl pattern at the root and just being utterly disappointed at how my relaxed ends just don’t hold up. BUT I still can’t really grasp the idea of cutting it all off. It’s a catch 22 I tell ya.
My loves! So I’m taking a mini break from my usual beauty posts and writing about life today. Things have been pretty crazy these recent weeks between blogging, working on a writing project, working full time, assisting with my husband’s business, fulfilling my mommy and wife duties and more. WHEW! I’m tired just writing about it let alone living it! Which prompted me to write about something I’m sure my brown queens can relate to and that’s how to maximize the hours in a day. Now I know we’ve all seen the memes telling us that “We have the same 24 hours in your day as Beyonce” and I’m sure that I wasn’t alone giving my side eye like PUH-LEASE. I have no nanny, housekeeper, personal chef, driver, assistant and whatever else King Bey has so…no my 24 hours are a tad bit different ;). However, I’m sure there are things that can be done in order to squeeze a little bit more time out of my day. Here’s what I’ve been doing and I’m sharing with my queens! Hopefully some of you can relate and put these into practice!
I read somewhere that crock pots were only supposed to be used in the winter or that they were for winter meals only. That made me really mad because I was like 1.) How can you make rules to the way in which I cook my food and 2.) That makes absolutely no sense. Who WANTS to actually cook in the summer? Wouldn’t it make perfect sense to use a crock pot? Anyway I don’t really care what the reasoning behind this thinking is. I have a crock pot. I love my crock pot. And in the summer it is my best friend. So enjoy this tasty crock pot recipe for when you want BBQ chicken but it’s either too hot outside to grill, there’s no way you’re cutting on an oven to bake them, or you simply just don’t have the time to do alll that. ENJOY!
INGREDIENTS: This is so simple. I’m for real. I’m not one of those people who use the word “simple” then go on to describe something totally opposite. That is NOT me.
1 bag of frozen chicken wings
1 bottle of Sweet Baby Ray’s Honey BBQ Sauce (or a BBQ sauce of your preference. If you’re really fancy you can make your own but I personally don’t have time for that 😉 )
1/2 cup Teriyaki Marinade
Dassit. Dassit. Dassit. I’m sorry I don’t use measuring spoons for seasonings I probably should but I don’t soooo…yea season to taste Queens. Season to taste.
WHAT TO DO: This is even simpler. I hate when I’m looking for a quick and easy crock pot recipe and the cooking entails some sort of coming back and altering of the food midway through and I’m just like…no. That’s not easy enough. This is though. I’m for real.
Season chicken to taste and set into crock pot
Pour 1/2 cup of Teriyaki marinade over chicken
Pour 3/4 bottle of BBQ sauce over chicken
Cook on low for 7 hours.
AND there it is. Crock pot chicken that falls off the bone. SO GOOD!
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