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In Current Rotation

I haven’t done a beauty post in awhile and it’s been forever and a day since I’ve written about style. I know I said before I was going to do more lifestyle posts mixed in with my big life epiphanies but, big life things kept on happening and so it goes. Still, it’s definitely something I want to do more of as I think about the direction of this blog and my plans for 2018. But before all that, I figured I’d ease back in with a few beauty and style things that are currently in rotation.

The Butter Depot

I have chronically dry skin and in the winter it only gets worse. I feel like I’ve tried everything under the sun to help keep my skin moisturized during these months and yet, I always wind up ashy and dry. Not a good look. When I discovered The Butter Depot through one of my clients I fell in love. The Citron Whipped Butter smells so good and it definitely can work for a masculine or feminine scent preference. At first touch, it’s really thick but as soon as it his your skin it warms and melts in like butter. I’ve even used it on my hair when I needed something a bit thicker than my normal daily leave-in conditioner. And of course, I have to mention, it’s black woman owned which just makes me love it that much more.

Crochet Braids

Speaking of my hair…I cut it all off. I have a really well written, heartfelt post about my hair journey that I’ve yet to share but, the cliff notes version: I started growing locs, I changed my mind, I cut all my hair around my 30th birthday. Since then, it has grown long enough to do crochet braids. Now, let me be real when I say I love my liberating short cut as much as the wild and free spirit inside me does but sometimes a girl just wants to wave her hair back and forth. I’ve been eyeing this particular hair for months and it’s probably my favorite crochet braids style so far. And because we’re all friends here, it only cost me $20. Yes, $20. I think I’ll do a more in depth post about crochet braids, the kind of hair I use, and my technique because I always get asked a ton of questions. I don’t think people understand that honestly, truly, I do the absolute least. Knowledge is power and sharing is caring so that post soon come.

Sweater Weather

Even though I’m a summer baby at heart, I can’t deny that I love the fall. Pumpkin spice, the start of the holidays, sweaters, and boots will always have a special place in my heart. As part of embracing all of who I really am, I’ve been adding a a bunch of chunky sweaters in blush, gray, and black to my wardrobe. Real talk, I really don’t need anything but these three colors to wear. There’s the occasional wine, olive, or navy blue but blush, gray, and black have my heart. I know I have an aversion to pattens at times so one way I give my wardrobe some variation is with details darling. I love wearing a simple item, like a blush chunky sweater, that has some unexpected detail to it. This definitely has to be one of my favorite finds this season.

What beauty and style things do you currently have in rotation? I’m looking for cute boots, a natural wine and nude lipstick, and a satin lined beanie (preferably from a black owned company). Any suggestions? Let me know! ~xoxo

Every Sunday I share a letter from my journey with those on my email list. WELL SPENT is part things I’ve come across that inspire me, things I think might resonate with you, and a lesson from the journey.


A Hair Journey

Hair…is an interesting thing. For so many years, I feel like my hair was just…a thing in the background. You know, like, aside from maintaining it, I never put too much thought into it. It just…was. Like many black women, I grew up with hot combs and a Just for Me perm by the time I was out of elementary school. The type of “hair maintenance” that I was taught, was to get my kinks as straight and slick as possible. The hotter the flat iron, the stronger the relaxer, the better. And through childhood, adolescence, and young adulthood, I never even questioned this.

I got introduced to my first real weave in college (can we not talk about the infamous fake ponytail? Thanks). You mean, I could braid up these naps and wear this {insert euro-ethnic hair type} that was straighter and sleeker than I could ever make my own? Yes, please! I spent my early 20’s full of sew-in’s and thousands of dollars spent on covering my own hair…so that I could rock this other hair that didn’t belong to me. And I mean that, now, in the deepest sense you can take it sis.

But back then, I didn’t think any of it. It just…was.

I wonder though, what would I have thought, if I had the mindset then, that I have now. Would I have been super woke? Would I have been the sister with the bullhorn at the very beginnings of the natural hair movement talking about self hate and eurocentric beauty standards? Or would I have had the same lax, but solid, opinion that I have now? Would I have cared? Would I have had the confidence to change? Would I have even wanted to?

I can’t pinpoint when things changed. I can tell you though, that it was no dramatic moment where I discovered I had this deep rooted self hatred thing going on. I assure you, it was wayyy less woke than that. It had more to do with the fact that I was losing my hair due to postpartum hair loss and I was ready and willing to try anything to get my edges back. That search for “anything” led to me to the natural hair community. This was around the time where it was really starting to get popping and the 3c curly girls were all over youtube. I figured, why not? And so, my transition to natural hair began.


A Hair Journey

I spent the next four years desperately twisting my hair into submission (see photo above). The first three, I dove deep into the natural hair community. I began blogging about it, contributing to magazines about it (which I still do), I even spoke on a panel about it in 2015. I appreciate that time I had to learn more about my hair, how to take care of it, and slowly started to reflect back on the years of relaxing, straightening, and spending the equivalent of car notes on weaves.

After the novelty wore off and the realization that my hair would never look like {insert popular 3c youtuber}, I began to feel indifferent about it. The next year or so was interesting. I wasn’t taking care of my hair, rarely wore it out, and had begun to protective style constantly…not out of a need for protection but out of disdain for not knowing how to get my natural hair to look how I wanted without spending a million and one hours I didn’t have. I was in a cycle that was familiar; attempting to suppress my hair and hiding it whenever I could. But, unlike those earlier years…I had thoughts about this. It wasn’t…just hair anymore to me.


A Hair Journey

I just finished washing and deep conditioning my hair. My energy was gone as I had given pretty much all I had to chasing children, tackling laundry, and cooking for my family–who eats more like a small sports team to be honest. Nothing in me felt like detangling, moisturizing, oiling and retwisting my hair just to be irritated that my fro didn’t come out the way I’d hoped or had shrunken from resting on my shoulders to barely grazing my ear lobes. I was exhausted, tired, frustrated…I was over it.

What was this all even for?

I don’t even want to think about the time I spent on my hair in the four years that I was a loose natural. It’s scary. Wash day was a legit day long experience for me. And maintaining some semblance of a curl pattern meant I was taking hours each week to retwist, untwist, pick and repeat. At this point, I had decided, maybe it really was just hair and if so? Taking all this time out my life to make it look, once again, like something that didn’t belong to me? Pointless. I was done.

I twisted my hair and decided, that was that. I’d let it do it’s own thing.

Five months in and I finally feel like, I’m truly embracing my natural hair. And let me real, it’s a struggle every day. My hair is my alter ego. She’s wild, I’m chill. She’s bold, I’m laid back. I’m quiet observing the scene and she is the scene. She’s grows up and out making herself known. She’s not afraid to be her. And as locs, no matter how I’ve tried to tame her in my moments of exasperation, she’s absolutely determined to be free. She’s helping me to understand and peel back the layers of myself. And doing that, is always tough work.

I have come to learn that…yea, maybe it is just hair. But, I can’t deny that my hair journey has paralleled my life journey so very perfectly. So…I guess I’ll let you be the judge. Just hair or nah?

Every Sunday I share a letter from my journey with those on my email list. WELL SPENT is part things I’ve come across that inspire me and things I think might resonate with you.

Beauty Makeup + Skincare

Beauty Edit: Summer ’16 Edition

One of the perks of being a freelance beauty writer is you get to try allll the products. The days that the mailman brings gifts are the best days. If only bright colored boxes that smelled good were the only things he brought. I haven’t written or posted about beauty personally much since moving over to this space but with summer here, a whole bunch of new goodies, and the seasonal transition of makeup products, I wanted to share some of beauty things that are in current rotation.

All About Oils

All About Oils | Styled Her Life

I don’t know why but my skin has been insanely dry the past couple of weeks. Especially on my arms and shoulders. It’s weird for this to happen during the summer. I’ve been using this OGX Argan Oil of Morocco In-Shower Oil on my skin after I hop out the shower and it’s been helping my skin stay moisturized and soft. The key to using this is applying on while it’s damp, not wet for the best results.

A couple weeks back Influenster sent me this Nuxe Paris Huile Prodigieuse multi-purpose dry body oil to try and I don’t why it took me so long to finally use it. The smell alone is worth it but I find it leaves my skin crazy soft and leaves a behind a nice dewy finish. I also love that this is a travel size so I can pop in my small crossbody summer purse easily.

When I first learned about the new line of products from Madam CJ Walker Beauty Culture I shared the news over on the beauty blog. Now that I’ve gotten a change to use them thoroughly, I can’t get enough of the Scent and Shine Coconut Oil. Leaves my hair so soft and shiny.

All Natural Skincare

All Natural Skincare | Styled Her Life

I’ve been slowly investing in more natural and organic beauty products. Especially when it comes to skincare. With my 29th birthday less than a month away, keeping my skin happy and healthy has become more of a priority for me. I’ve been loving the exfoliating food facials by BuffHer. For the summer, I picked up the Vanilla Bean Latte one for combination/oily skin as that’s the best way to describe my skin during this season.

I wish that you could smell this soap by Harlem Soap Shop. There really aren’t words to describe how good it is. I know spearmint and orange isn’t something you’d typically put together but trust me, it’s everything. I love using this soap in the morning as it’s very refreshing which is exactly what I need on these lazy summer mornings. The fact that it’s a handmade in Brooklyn so I can support an indie business is just an added bonus.

Nude Lips All Summer ’16

Nude Lips | Styled Her Life

Even though I know summer is supposed to be all about the bright and bold lipsticks, I’m stuck on nude lips and I’m cool with that. There’s something about a fresh face and nude lips that I will always love and just a peek at my lipstick stash can confirm that. My current faves are NYX Lip Lingerie in Teddy and Nicka K True Matte in Millbrook.


Madam C.J. Walker Haircare to Launch in Sephora!

Madam C.J. Walker Beauty Culture

Y’all. We’ve been flourishing this Black History Month. From Bey dropping Formation, to Kendrick’s powerful Grammy performance, we’re out here slaying. So you can imagine when I received word that THE ORIGINAL BLACK BEAUTY ENTREPRENEUR, Madam C.J. Walker’s legacy haircare brand has relaunched and will be available at Sephora next month?! Queens, Yassssss to all of it. Everything. Just Yes.

You don’t even have to be a regular around here to know how I feel about America’s first self-made woman millionaire that just so happens to be a black woman with a beauty brand *insert painting nails emoji, the black hand of course. To hear this iconic brand, available in my lifetime, brought to us by Sundial Brands (hey Shea Moisture hey!) has returned with an all new haircare collection is beyond dope. I’m so excited to see what the brand has to offer. Continue Reading


Giovanni Tea Tree Triple Threat Invigorating Conditioner

Giovanni Tea Tree Triple Threat Invigorating ConditionerMy natural hair is picky…matter of fact she’s a lot like me. When we like something we really like it and when we don’t, we REALLY don’t. The only difference is she tends to not like a whole lot more things than she does like {side eye}. I think that’s why I could never be a proper natural hair blogger. She’s just not having it. And I’m cool with that. That doesn’t stop me from trying though. Especially when it comes to finding a product that solves a natural hair problem I’m dealing with. In this case, I was on a search to find a detangling conditioner that was more affordable than my normal cleansing and deep conditioners, that the crown actually liked, and that really detangled because listen…I don’t care how simple my natural hair routine is…detangling will always be in the way. After much trial and error, I tried the Giovanni Tea Tree Triple Threat Invigorating Conditioner and I think I’ve found the one.

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Current Obsession: Mineral Fusion 3-in-1 Color Stick in Magnetic

Mineral Fusion 3-in-1 Color StickMy current makeup and beauty product setup goes something like this: On my vanity, I have my current staples, favorite products, new goodies, or products I’m testing. Think favorite primer, current foundation, a few staple concealers, winter lipsticks, and other products to create my daily go to look. In my makeup drawer is organized chaos of everything else. Every now and then–read more then than now–I go through said chaos and give away, get rid of, or my personal favorite, rediscover old products. And I don’t mean old in the sense like expired. Girl that’s what the “get rid of” part is for. But I mean those things that I’ve tossed in there in lieu of making more room for new things, things tested but maybe weren’t too exciting, or things I just straight up forgot about. These things happen…right? I recently had some time to do one of those clean out sessions and I came across the Mineral Fusion 3-in-1 Color Stick in Magnetic. Queens. I think I may have just discovered illuminating brown girl gold. Why haven’t I been using this all my life?

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My Simple Winter Natural Hair Routine

My Simple Natural Hair Routine

Can I be real with y’all? There have been times when I was reeaaallyy about to give this natural hair thing up. Like throw in the towel, grab me a flat iron, and be done with the whole thing. And it’s always at that point, right when I’m all the way through, someone will say “I love your hair!” or “I wish I could wear my hair like yours.” or the thing that really changes my mind “You make me want to go natural too. How did you get your hair like that?” Something about the fact that my hair–no matter how much drama she tries to put me through–inspires other women to return to natural, means I have to keep going. And growing. And sharing.

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Marc Jacobs Beauty Velvet Noir Major Volume Mascara Review

Marc Jacobs Beauty Velvet Noir Major Volume Mascara

*Special thank you to Influenster and Marc Jacobs Beauty for the gift!

So…this is a sexy ass tube of mascara. That’s really the first thing that came to my mind when I pulled this Marc Jacobs Beauty Velvet Noir Major Volume mascara out of the box. I’m a sucker for packaging so I was already loving this new beauty before I even tried it out. Being the girl I am, I tossed this in my makeup bag next to my favorite YSL lipstick (Chocolate in the City) and just looked at how nice pretty they looked together. After about five minutes in admiration of it’s design I realized that if I was ever going to actually review the product, I needed to open it. In the back of my mind I was thinking “sexy or not, nothing will ever come close to my Lights, Camera, Lashes”, but you know, it’s my job to find out. For sure for sure.

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3 Beauty Boutiques for the Girl Who Wants Something Different

3 Beauty Boutiques

Never the kind of girl to waste any time when it comes to beauty, it’s time to get to work on those 2016 beauty resolutions! Take that as my not so subtle way to say: I gotta go shopping. Like every good beauty blogger, my first instinct was to hit up my local Sephora and go. in. But, maybe it has something to do with my taste becoming more refined or maybe it’s my passion for discovering indie brands but, as excited as I am to go beauty shopping, I know what I’m looking for isn’t going to be found at a mainstream beauty store. These days I’m looking for something more.

I’m looking for beauty boutiques that offer something different.

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2016 Beauty Resolutions

2016 Beauty Resolutions_1

Every year that I get closer to…you know…not being in my 20’s anymore, the more serious I get about my skin and beauty routines. I care more about what I’m putting on, how my skin is reacting to products, and pickier about how often I switch things up. With 2016 being my last year in my 20’s–omg cue anxiety–I am not playing any games. So just like I came up with a bunch of life and business goals, you better believe I came up with some with beauty resolutions too. 2016 will be the year of the glo’ up.

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First Impression: BH Cosmetics Liquid Lipsticks + Swatches

BH Cosmetics Liquid Lipstick

As if I needed another lipstick. Well at least that’s what I told Instagram when I got these beauties in the mail. But clearly, a girl can never have too many lipsticks. And with pretty much every brand having a liquid lipstick line now, you can see how necessary it was to grab a few ;-).  I haven’t picked up anything from BH Cosmetics since back in my newbie beauty blogging days but when I heard they were the next brand to release a line of liquid lipsticks I thought I would check them out. BH Cosmetics is a super affordable brand and as girl on a budget, that meant I could get three instead of one, so that’s exactly what I did.

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Fro Love: As I Am Cleansing Pudding Review

As I Am Cleansing Pudding

I feel like this review biased and here’s why: My hair just likes As I Am products. There. We can really just end this here but because I’m trying to do better and actually share meaningful content that you guys can use, we’re going to do this proper. The full official review of the cleansing product, that replaced my other staple cleansing product (hey Coconut Cleansing Conditioner), that’s from the same brand, becausssseee….My hair just likes As I Am products.

You might remember a few months back I had a natural hair crisis of sorts, when I went to numerous beauty supply stores on wash day only to find my all time favorite cleansing conditioner wasn’t trying to be found that day. I wound up picking up the As I Am Cleansing Pudding and have been testing it ever since.

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GRWM: Soft Brown Fall Makeup

Soft Brown Fall Makeup

Taking some time to get back into the swing of creating videos. As I’m looking forward to growing this here blog over the next year, I’m focused on giving the people what they want ;). One of my most popular posts ever was my last GRWM with me video so I created another one. Since Fall has finally decided to arrive, I created a simple fall makeup look. A cool soft brown smokey eye and a chocolate brown lip. I stuck with affordable products for the most part since and the best part of this fall makeup for sure has to be the Maybelline Nudes palette I used for my eyes. One of the best drugstore palettes out! And of course the rest of my makeup deets (in order of use) after the video.

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Beauty Buzz: Pat McGrath Launches Gold 001

Beauty Buzz_Pat McGrath

Let’s get intros out of the way first. Pat McGrath holds many titles: Iconic makeup artist, Global Creative Director for P&G working on brands like Covergirl, Max Factor, Dolce & Gabbana, and creator of a breakthrough cosmetics company that is set to launch later in 2016. I was already excited when I heard the news earlier this fall. Aside from her work as a makeup artist, she is a brown girl that is slaying the beauty industry. That’s as dope as it gets. So you can imagine how hype I was when I found out–thank you Internet–that we don’t even have to wait any longer because on October 29th, yes as in tomorrow, Pat McGrath is releasing her debut product Gold 001 at 12 pm. But wait…that’s not even the best part.

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3 Beauty Subscription Boxes for Brown Girls

Beauty Boxes for Brown Girls

A few weeks ago I got a text from a family member asking my thoughts on a certain super popular beauty subscription box. I gave her my thoughts–and then because I’m a brown beauty advocate and brown girl enthusiast–promptly directed her to the websites of 3 beauty boxes that are owned by brown girls and tailor their products for women of color.

Brown Beauty Boxes_Cocotique11. Cocotique – this beauty subscription box was created for women of color to “simplify the search and discovery process”. Hello! How many times have you bought those must have products just to find out that umm…nah. Not on this melanin. With popular partnerships with some of my favorite brands like Milani, Shea Moisture, Cover FX, and Black Radiance this box is a must have for brown girls. They also have a blog (because you know how I feel about brands and their blogs) featuring brown beauties and bloggers with their Cocobelles and Cocobloggers series. Absolutely love it! There’s still time to get the October box if you subscribe by September 23rd. Don’t miss out!

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2. We Are Onyx – “all in one beauty destination for black women” yaaasss. Their mission is to educate and empower women of color to take charge of their own beauty. This monthly box has featured products from brands like Cantu, CremeofNature and Cargo cosmetics. You can subscribe now to get 5-7 products for black girls every month.

curlBox Body

3. Curlbox Body – When I first found out that my mentor in my head Myleik was expanding her curlBox brand to bath and body products…listen the turn up was so real. I was already getting my life with the curlBox Natural and adding this new box to the mix was just like HERE! Take all my coins! But seriously, I purchased the first curlBox body and was so impressed. From mainstream faves like Carol’s Daughter, to up and coming brands like Harlem Soap (listen to me…the Spearmint and Orange soap…Just go get and thank me later). The last box from June 2015 is still on sale on the curlBox site so if you haven’t grabbed it I would go do that!

What beauty boxes are you subscribed to? Like em, Love em? Let me know!

Stay Blessed Beautiful!



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